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By Ron Carter Updates

Curbing Bad Behavior/Don’t Drink, Get Tipsy and Drive

Ranger Battalion Shoulder Sleeve Insignia
US Ranger Badge

It is with a heavy heart I write this week’s blog. For the second time in less than nine months, we lost two shinning stars in our family. First, it was my great-nephew, Devon Burgess, aged 19 years old, who was killed in a car crash in Brooklyn, New York. Secondly, a week ago, my wife’s cousin eldest son, Davieonne Kelly, aged 20 years old, was killed by a driver driving under the influence of alcohol. You have never read about these young men or seen them on TV, because they were not involved in any of the gang lifestyles many in the media report on nightly. Devon was about to enroll last May at Berkeley University in California and Daveionne was in training to become a US Ranger. He has been on several field trips across the country and was excited about becoming a Ranger. After Devon’s untimely death, I was inspired to write this blog, “Curbing Bad Behavior.” Now with the passing of Davieonne, I am requesting people all over the world don’t drink, get tipsy and drive.

The San Diego News reported Davieonne, of Perris, California, was driving a 1992 Toyota Camry with two passengers and was headed north on Interstate 15 when his car was struck from behind by a 2003 Nissan Altima. The Altima was driven by 49-year-old Katherine Heinzel, a retired Police Officer of Winchester, who was traveling at a high rate of speed. Both drivers lost control and veered across the northbound lanes, crashed through the metal guard rail and traveled down a steep embankment. One of the Camry’s passengers, Kris Walker, 19, of Perris, pulled Heinzel from the wrecked Altima before it caught fire. Walker sustained moderate injuries and the car’s other passenger, Brian Morast Jr., 20, sustained major injuries and was taken to a hospital where he was in critical condition. Heinzel also sustained major injuries in the crash and was taken to a hospital. She is being held on suspicion of drunken driving. Davieonne died from the injuries he sustained caused by the accident.

About 10 years ago, I stopped drinking alcohol. I joined my brother, Gordon, and several of my friends such as Chris Jonz, Greg Peck and Michael Stradford in refraining from consuming alcohol. It is one of the best decisions I have made. Whenever I am stopped by Police Officers for whatever reason they conjured up, I am amazed at their facial expressions when I remarked “I don’t drink” in answer to the question “how much you had to drink tonight?” So, as the holidays near, please remember to don’t drink, get tipsy and drive. The live you save maybe your own.

I will missed these two handsome, intelligent, Christian and well-behaved young men. Hopefully, their lives will be an inspiration to the other young men who are members of our family. Rest In Peace Devon and Davieonne.

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By Ron Carter Updates

Curbing Bad Behavior/Re-Thinking Divided Government

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Something has inherently gone wrong with the United States of America (USA) Congress. The failure of the Super Committee who were tasked to chart a way forward for the American Economy is yet another sign in what has become one of the flaws of Divided Government. Intelligent men and women who were voted into office to represent the American People have once again failed to compromise with each other and thus have created a breach which cannot be filled.

These men and women are behaving as if the American People don’t matter. If they are surmising we will forget their bad behavior as the 2012 national elections approach, they are incorrect. This time ladies and gentlemen, it’s different, because the USA Economy is very weak, unemployment is high and the American People are full of angst about their nest eggs as  millions of Americans continue to lose their homes. Who will be blamed?

The USA Congress – most of the times – functions as a Divided Government political system. At least that’s what we’ve been told since I’ve been paying attention to national politics. It’s obvious presently Divided Government in the USA is not working. We have the Democrats and the Republicans at polar opposites of the debate on how America should be governed. The Democrats are opposed to massive program cuts and the Republicans are opposed to tax increases on the very wealthy. How will our deficit problem ever going to be fixed if these conscientious men and women stand at an impasse “whistling pass Dixie?”

I am beginning to believe since they can’t compromise, it might be the moment in our history for the American People to vote one party into government. If in four years, they (the party in control) have failed to move the country forward, then we should vote them all out of office and elect a new party. This way there’ll be no one to blame but the party who was in power. Moreover, we, the American People, will only endure four years of their incompetent government instead of the decades of wrangling and spinning the current ideologues, who are occupying the United States Congress, are espousing.

If not now, when?

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By Ron Carter Updates

Curbing Bad Behavior/Protect The Children

If you witnessed anyone sexually abusing a child, it is your responsibility to report the act to law enforcement officials immediately. Please don’t report it to an authority figure who might benefit from covering up the horrendous act, because they probably wouldn’t mention the incident to the police. The recent Penn State University alleged cover-up of a sex abuse scandal involving one of their football team coaches, Jerry Sandusky, should serve as notice what can happen when college sports big money trumps doing what is right.

Picture this:  , Joe Paterno,  the college football head coach with the most wins in American history, is about to receive one of the highest awards in the United States of America; a prestigious American college with an extraordinary winning football record; that prestigious college earned about $72.2 million dollars, with profits of $53.2 million and garnered $6 million per game from its football program in 2010; an alleged child abuser and college coach who is also the founder of a charitable program for young underprivileged boys; an assistant coach who allegedly witnessed a sexually abusive act being committed by one of his colleagues and chose to report it to the football team’s head coach, instead of to law enforcement officials and several young vulnerable boys who were allegedly preyed upon by the college coach. Who are really the victims in this scenario? Please spare me the remarks of empathy for the 84 years old iconic Joe Paterno. It is my opinion, Joe Paterno placed more importance on Penn State football program than on protecting the lives of the young men who were allegedly abused. For more than 10 years, these young men lived in silence and shame carrying the burden of being allegedly sexually abused by someone they trusted. What a shame! Shame on all the adults that remained silent after the first alleged act occurred.

I spent the 2010 Christmas holidays with my family in Georgia. We stayed at my sister’s home during our reunion. She (my sister) has two wonderful and intelligent children. My nephew is 12 and my niece is 10 years old. I arrived at my sister’s home one week before my other siblings got there, so I was afforded the joy and pleasure of bonding with both my nephew and niece. While enjoying their enthusiasm, kindness and wit, it crossed my mind that if anyone should attempt to hurt these two beautiful, God-loving and innocent children, I would follow that person or persons to the end of the world and bring them to justice. I can only imagine what a parent goes through when their children are abused by adults. Children are our future and they should be cherished and nurtured. They should not be abused.

It is woefully arrogant for evil-minded adults to believe they can sexually abuse children without retribution. The lyrics,”Every day the bucket a-go a well, One day the bottom a-go drop out, One day the bottom a-go drop out. I say,” from the legendary singer, songwriter and poet Bob Marley‘s classic song, “I Shot The Sheriff,” is both prophetic and heart wrenching. Now more than ever before, we must look after our children and report sex-abuse to law enforcement officials whenever it is witnessed.

 

 

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By Ron Carter Updates

Curbing Bad Behavior/No Comment Is Not An Option

Eliot Spitzer in 2004
Eliot Spitzer

I am astonished that intelligent men and women, who are seeking public offices, have not learned when a crisis occurs, it’s always best to get ahead of the issue and tell the truth immediately. It is ridiculous to believe a salacious story which a candidate is involved in will not be shared with the media. Moreover, in today’s information driven environment, the details of controversial  stories usually unfold in a manner which doesn’t correlate with the office seeker’s agenda. My suggestion is if it’s bad news, own it and get control of it.  No Comment is not an option. Otherwise, the issue which should have been in the news cycle for two days could end up being there for two weeks. In journalism parlance, it’s called the “drip,” “drip,” “drip” syndrome.

In 1989 when the Exxon Valdez oil tanker spilled 11 million gallons of oil into Alaska‘s Prince William Sound, Exxon’s officials made the error of not addressing the spill immediately. It took Exxon’s chairman two weeks before he visited the site. His action resulted in a backlash that today is very memorable in the public’s consciousness regarding Exxon’s bad behavior. Besides Enron, the Exxon Valdez Oil Spill is the poster child for how not to handle a crisis. In contrast, former New York Governor, Eliot Spitzer, when he was caught engaged in a prostitution scandal in 2008, came forward and addressed the media regarding his involvement with the illegal ring. In less than two days, he scheduled a press conference, apologized to his wife, family, friends and staff and retreated out of the public’s view.  A month later, he resigned from his position as governor free of any criminal prosecution. In 2010, CNN hired Mr. Spitzer and Kathleen Parker as co-hosts of the political talk show, “Parker Spitzer.” After Ms. Parker left the show, it was renamed “In The Arena,” hosted by Mr. Spitzer. His stint at CNN has helped with the rehabilitation of his image. In my opinion this occurred, because he took control of the crisis and immediately set about repairing his image.

If one is planning to run for public office, don’t try to sweep your not so pleasant past transgressions under the rug, because someone is always anxious to tell your story. My suggestion is apologize, be honest, show humility and take control of the story, because “No Comment” is not an option.

 

 

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